Well i have some social problem. when i moved to the states(about 5 years ago and i have dual citizenship in US and S.Korea) the change in environment shocked me. Although now i am very fluent in english (starting to forget my korean...).
i was more of a quiet type of a person to start out with but now i feel like i closed myself trying to interact with people i dont know.
i feel awkward around people i don't know and i don't know what to do(i pretend to do something important with my phone).
It takes me much longer time to get to know people in larger crowd. When i'm in smaller group of people i feel much confident and can talk to people around me, but more than 6,7 it gets too difficult more me.
what should i do to improve my social life and get to know many people.
please help me!!How can i overcome being socially awkward?
this is the perfect question for me! first of all, i think what you're describing is what everyone feels to a CERTAIN extent. it's HOW awkward you are that's the problem. almost everyone has problems in groups with shyness and making friends, but people like us have the hardest time. i grew up being the smart kid in school that everyone made fun of, so i became socially awkward and had very few friends most of my school life. i started to dumb myself down to fit in around 8th grade, and in HS i got better... with PRACTICE. it sounds dumb, but you have to immerse yourself. keep forcing yourself to be around SMALL groups where you have to get to know 4 or 5 people. if you have a friend w/ friends you don't know, hang out with them. having one person you know with you certainly helps! i am still socially awkward. if i miss my chance to say hello to someone, i feel like i can never go back and fix it. deep down i know i can. (i also do the phone thing you mentioned!) there is nothing wrong with always being shy... as long as you can eventually open up and be yourself. remind yourself each day that if people don't accept you, it doesn't matter and you can still be yourself. as long as you're kind to people, most will be kind to you. hope this helps! :)How can i overcome being socially awkward?
well, there's two ways of conquering your problem:
A. Go with the crowd. be social, morph to your surroundings. people like people when they have stuff in common.
B. Stand out in the crowd. Be OVERLY social. like, just be ridiculous. people like crazy people because they're out of the ordinary. I mean, don't be weird. Be like a class clown would.How can i overcome being socially awkward?
Your situation is very understandable. Coming from another country and having to master another language is tough, but I feel if people knew more about you (and the fact you came from somewhere else and learned a new language) they would be even more intrigued.
My advice is when your in a group try to be more out going. Speak out on issues or topics your able to voice your opinion on (don't bluff and look bad though if they catch you). If you are better with smaller groups get to know the people in those groups better. Once you've done that go into the bigger group but stay with your smaller group. You will be able to meet other people through the small group you are comfortable with and know better.
Don't be afraid to talk to new people. If they look like they want to talk, go for it!How can i overcome being socially awkward?
y'know what. no one can help you except yourself. you just need to gain confidence, be lively, and have some group of friends (they maybe your neighbor or co-workers). Change your style. Sometimes, it's your outside appearance create those things that makes you uncomfortable with other people. if it is, you may need to do something about it.How can i overcome being socially awkward?
Conversation is a key to being social :-)
* Comment on an item that you both share in your immediate surroundings, such as the long lineup you’re both waiting in or the wobbly chair next to you. By focusing an item you can both experience, you’re removing any potential awkwardness with a canned comment.
* If there is something the person is or has that truly intrigues you, simply use that as a conversation starter. This could be as simple as admiring a piece of clothing or asking them about the item they ordered.
* A genuine hello coupled with a smile can be equally as effective. A quick, “How are you today?” works too for a straightforward follow up.
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