Darth Obama and the dems are once again pushing for free health care for the millions of lazy Americans who refuse to pay for it by saying their plan will be deficit neutral in 5 or 10 years.
The dems and Obama:
A. Lied to get the 787 billion stimulus passed.
B. Obama's deficit this year is 4 times the record set last year.
C. Who spends money when there is a deficit?! Pay it back first!
Its shocking the %26quot;change%26quot; we got. Looks like more out of control spending and entitlements by the radical left to me.
How can the American people trust anything Obama says?
A. He lied about the auto industry needing the money.
B. He lied about how bad the economy was to ge this agenda passed.
C. He lied about the number of new jobs that would be created.
D. He lies, and lies, lies. If this were GW the dems would be stroking.
Obama math:
Spending 250 million on a solar array for the Air Force = good. Its save them one million a year. lol
Close a factory with 4000 jobs, open %26quot;green%26quot; industry factory and employ 150. He called that an %26quot;example.%26quot;
Spend 787 BILLION on a stimulus creating or saving initially 150,000 jobs. Then 600,000 temporary jobs this summer - either way that's a loss of 1 MILLION jobs.
Can we afford more of Obama's %26quot;change%26quot;? NO!
Sorry libs you can't argue with FACTS. Nothing I have mentioned is a lie, go ahead spin that.Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
Sitting back and criticizing is easy. Doing something constructive is hard. What exactly would you have done given the situation Obama was left with?....and I would like a very specific, detailed plan...not a bashing of Obama's action....Tell me EXACTLY what you would have done instead.....and what the projected outcome would be.
Then after you do that, we can all criticize it and tell you have stupid you are.....Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
As far as I am concerned, I never trusted him from the get go.Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
It's such a scam. It won't even really be free health care. Well, maybe it will be more free health care for illegal immigrants. I never have trusted him. I just hope to god he doesn't pass his cap and trade scam to fight %26quot;global warming%26quot;. If his health care plan and cap and trade pass, this country is truly screwed.Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
At least when he made a mistake he admitted it and nobody died . G.W. and the Republican party was in charge when this economic mess happened. They had 6 years of complete control.
I wonder how much money George's and Dick's friends made in the Iraq war?
.Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
Mmmm, most of what you %26quot;said%26quot; are either lies or have nothing to do with reality. Please stop watching Fox News and listening to Rush Limbaugh. It's just rotting your brain.Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
Not to mention the lies about being able to read bills before they were voted on. Not to mention the campaign promise of NO LOBBYISTS being given appointments.
The dems fastracked the bills not giving the pubic or even our representatives time to read it. He is appointing lobbyists and ntax cheats left and right.
Liberals cannot be trusted in govt. They are irresponsible and the only place they know where to lead is is to destruction and misery.Obama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
Never liked new king
Never voted for new king
Never trusted new king
Never will
I'm sorry but I have to add...mstweety's comment cracked me up! So naive....so stupid. Haven't you ever made a mistake in your life? Ah yes, but I'm not running the most powerful country in the world. (Well, it use to be the most powerful.) king's mistakes are horrendousObama%26039;s numbers by his own admission were wrong - how can we trust him from now on?
Everyone makes mistakes sometime in their life. I'm sure you've made your share within your lifetime and will probably make plenty more.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
I got a betta fish a week and a half ago, and from what I read they re more difficult to take care of than what the store lets on.
Anyhow, I love my fish so far. He's very pretty and I want to treat him right so he'll live long.
I want to know what I can do to change the temperature in his water without having him go into shock. I just changed the water, but over night both the water in his container and the water I let set with the chlorine stuff became cold. Would it be wise to set him out in the sun? Or would that hurt him?
Also, temporarily I have a small container which I wonder if its really big enough for him. Its just a cheap little thing. Anyhow, what would be the best size for a betta fish? How big does it need to be?
What kind of food is the best for a betta fish? I bought two separate kinds, one something like color brite and another that has freeze dried shrimp or something. I hear a variety is the best, so what would you suggest? Also, when it comes to flakes, how much should I feed my betta, and is it better to feed him once a day or twice?
Thanks, and if you have any useful websites with information that would be very helpful!Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
The best way to warm up the water would be...with a heater :) A small five-gallon tank with a filter and heater is the most effective environment for one betta. You can go larger if you want more fish, but for a single betta the 5-gals are the best.
The sun wouldn't be a great idea as it would not only promote algae growth, but also would cause the temp to rapidly fall each night which is worse than consistent cool.
A variety of food is the best. Pellets and flake both work. Be sure to put him on a fast every 6th day or so. This will prevent bloating issues. Tiny amounts is always best. Literally a tiny pinch, twice a day can be good. It's more natural to them to graze slowly throughout the day than just one big meal.
There's a good forum over at www.fishgeeks.com
Hope I helped!
EDIT: You CAN put two in the same tank. But they have to be female and male. NEVER put two fish that are males in the same tank or ANY fish that could be mistaken for a MALE betta (big flashy fins). Other than that you'll be fine.Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
of they are pretty sturdy fish my kids always buy them they can live in a small fish bowl and I usually change water to like a luke warm water about once or twice a week as they seem to poop a lot and their food settles to the bottom as well if they do not eat it all..one thing I will tell you is never ever put two in the same bowl even for a few moments to change water because they bite each others fins off lol I learn this from experience lolBetta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
Bettas are tropical fish. Therefore, they need a temperature between 72-82 degrees. No, don't set him out in the sun. First, extra light helps algae growth. Second, it will warm the water too fast. No one more one degree per hour. As for size, always get the largest size you can. I would say a minumum of 5 gallons. Also, if you get a larger tank, bettas make a great addition to a tropical tank, so you would be able to add other species with them.Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
While a betta can live in a un-heated bowl, they will not thrive. They need temps. from 78-80 degrees F. and a steady temp at that. A 2.5 gallon tank is the smallest they should be in, and its the smallest you can safely heat. In a heated tank, your betta will never be %26quot;lazy%26quot; and he will have less health problems. Partial water changes still will be needed, 25% weekly is best, with treated/aged water. i use water containers to keep water on hand. Never change 100% at one time.
Setting him in the sun is not the solution. when the sun goes down, the water will get cold again, and the sun might heat the small amount of water up to cook him.
Here is one site that might help:http://bettysplendens.com/articles/catvi
I've purchased stock from this breeder.
As for food. Hikari makes a good betta food, pellets. if you feed flakes, which is okay, crumbling them up first is best. Brine shrimp, bloodworms, tubifex worms are best given as treats once or twice a week instead of the pellets. I would feed once a day. if you want to feed twice a day, then cut the first feeding in half. Feed pellets only 2-3 at atime,once a day. flakes, a small pinch. Bettas don't have large stomachs and its best to underfeed a bit them over feed. As they need a high protein diet I fast mine on Sundays to help them digest their rich food.Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
Betta are a lot of fun. I have mine in a five gallon tank and he really swims around quite a bit. You could get away with 2.5 gallon at the very least but he (and you) will enjoy a bigger one more.
You do not want to put him outside in the sun. If you heat his bowl up then it will be twice as bad for him when it gets cold again. Just try and buy a bigger tank as soon as you can and put a heater and a filter in it.
As for food, I feed mine the pellets for bettas, but flakes are fine too. I also have freed dried bloodworms but he does not seem to like them. I heard that they like brine shrimp but since mine is housed with a shrimp I did not want to give him any ideas. :) As for how often I just feed a few pellets once a day.
Do 25% water changes once a week, or at the least every other week. Make sure you treat the water first for chlorine/chlorimine (sp) and you should be good to go.
Have fun with your betta, like I said they are a lot of fun. :)
Anyhow, I love my fish so far. He's very pretty and I want to treat him right so he'll live long.
I want to know what I can do to change the temperature in his water without having him go into shock. I just changed the water, but over night both the water in his container and the water I let set with the chlorine stuff became cold. Would it be wise to set him out in the sun? Or would that hurt him?
Also, temporarily I have a small container which I wonder if its really big enough for him. Its just a cheap little thing. Anyhow, what would be the best size for a betta fish? How big does it need to be?
What kind of food is the best for a betta fish? I bought two separate kinds, one something like color brite and another that has freeze dried shrimp or something. I hear a variety is the best, so what would you suggest? Also, when it comes to flakes, how much should I feed my betta, and is it better to feed him once a day or twice?
Thanks, and if you have any useful websites with information that would be very helpful!Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
The best way to warm up the water would be...with a heater :) A small five-gallon tank with a filter and heater is the most effective environment for one betta. You can go larger if you want more fish, but for a single betta the 5-gals are the best.
The sun wouldn't be a great idea as it would not only promote algae growth, but also would cause the temp to rapidly fall each night which is worse than consistent cool.
A variety of food is the best. Pellets and flake both work. Be sure to put him on a fast every 6th day or so. This will prevent bloating issues. Tiny amounts is always best. Literally a tiny pinch, twice a day can be good. It's more natural to them to graze slowly throughout the day than just one big meal.
There's a good forum over at www.fishgeeks.com
Hope I helped!
EDIT: You CAN put two in the same tank. But they have to be female and male. NEVER put two fish that are males in the same tank or ANY fish that could be mistaken for a MALE betta (big flashy fins). Other than that you'll be fine.Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
of they are pretty sturdy fish my kids always buy them they can live in a small fish bowl and I usually change water to like a luke warm water about once or twice a week as they seem to poop a lot and their food settles to the bottom as well if they do not eat it all..one thing I will tell you is never ever put two in the same bowl even for a few moments to change water because they bite each others fins off lol I learn this from experience lolBetta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
Bettas are tropical fish. Therefore, they need a temperature between 72-82 degrees. No, don't set him out in the sun. First, extra light helps algae growth. Second, it will warm the water too fast. No one more one degree per hour. As for size, always get the largest size you can. I would say a minumum of 5 gallons. Also, if you get a larger tank, bettas make a great addition to a tropical tank, so you would be able to add other species with them.Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
While a betta can live in a un-heated bowl, they will not thrive. They need temps. from 78-80 degrees F. and a steady temp at that. A 2.5 gallon tank is the smallest they should be in, and its the smallest you can safely heat. In a heated tank, your betta will never be %26quot;lazy%26quot; and he will have less health problems. Partial water changes still will be needed, 25% weekly is best, with treated/aged water. i use water containers to keep water on hand. Never change 100% at one time.
Setting him in the sun is not the solution. when the sun goes down, the water will get cold again, and the sun might heat the small amount of water up to cook him.
Here is one site that might help:http://bettysplendens.com/articles/catvi
I've purchased stock from this breeder.
As for food. Hikari makes a good betta food, pellets. if you feed flakes, which is okay, crumbling them up first is best. Brine shrimp, bloodworms, tubifex worms are best given as treats once or twice a week instead of the pellets. I would feed once a day. if you want to feed twice a day, then cut the first feeding in half. Feed pellets only 2-3 at atime,once a day. flakes, a small pinch. Bettas don't have large stomachs and its best to underfeed a bit them over feed. As they need a high protein diet I fast mine on Sundays to help them digest their rich food.Betta fish questions, water temperature and size bowl...?
Betta are a lot of fun. I have mine in a five gallon tank and he really swims around quite a bit. You could get away with 2.5 gallon at the very least but he (and you) will enjoy a bigger one more.
You do not want to put him outside in the sun. If you heat his bowl up then it will be twice as bad for him when it gets cold again. Just try and buy a bigger tank as soon as you can and put a heater and a filter in it.
As for food, I feed mine the pellets for bettas, but flakes are fine too. I also have freed dried bloodworms but he does not seem to like them. I heard that they like brine shrimp but since mine is housed with a shrimp I did not want to give him any ideas. :) As for how often I just feed a few pellets once a day.
Do 25% water changes once a week, or at the least every other week. Make sure you treat the water first for chlorine/chlorimine (sp) and you should be good to go.
Have fun with your betta, like I said they are a lot of fun. :)
What is wrong with me?
I seem to have lost the ability to use my brain in certain situations. For example, when planning a journey i do stupid things like forget to take a map, so ask for directions at the last minute. I also come across as nervous or impolite to strangers, even when I'm not. I also forget common manners such as not walking in front of people when getting on a train. Also, when speaking to people (even friends sometimes) I tend to speak really fast or stutter or say 'erm' a lot... (even though i am NOT nervous)..Its like, I know what to say, but it isnt coming out right!.... I think I might have speech dyslexia (if there is such a thing). I used to have a lot of common sense, now it seems to have gone out the window. I don't want people to think I'm dumb or lack common sense, because I am not dumb, i just feel dumb as of late. What is wrong with me? This has only started in the last few months. I feel completely useless. Any tips on how to change? My friend suggested she film me and I watch the film back, to shock me into changing...but I am aware of what I am like, I just don't know how to come across more normal again..What is wrong with me?
You have too much going on in your life and it's stressing you out and distracting you from responding appropriately to your environment. Maybe figure out the source of your stress and try to resolve it and you'll be more your old self. The filming doesn't sound like a good idea; your problem isn't that you're not aware of what you're doing and watching it over again won't help any.What is wrong with me?
idk maybe need to see a therapistWhat is wrong with me?
are you running late alot? or stressed? I can be like that when I am in a hurry or stressed or have not sat down all day. sort of like being in your own little world and you just are focussed more inwards. Maybe try and slow down. Meditation once a day? If you want email me and i can give you some simple meditations. I got Buddhist, wiccan and some nature ones. you can take your pick.What is wrong with me?
well JUST SLOW DOWN LESS STRESS or you can go see if you have diabetes or hyper activity or a form of bipolar
ps i have delexia my self im like that alot and get more sleep that may helpWhat is wrong with me?
eat healthier better sleep and got see a therapistWhat is wrong with me?
Your change in behavior could be a sign of some internal, hormonal, or glandular changes. In addition to (or instead of) seeing a therapist, you should make an appointment with your doctor ASAP and tell him/her what you told us. Good luck! :)
You have too much going on in your life and it's stressing you out and distracting you from responding appropriately to your environment. Maybe figure out the source of your stress and try to resolve it and you'll be more your old self. The filming doesn't sound like a good idea; your problem isn't that you're not aware of what you're doing and watching it over again won't help any.What is wrong with me?
idk maybe need to see a therapistWhat is wrong with me?
are you running late alot? or stressed? I can be like that when I am in a hurry or stressed or have not sat down all day. sort of like being in your own little world and you just are focussed more inwards. Maybe try and slow down. Meditation once a day? If you want email me and i can give you some simple meditations. I got Buddhist, wiccan and some nature ones. you can take your pick.What is wrong with me?
well JUST SLOW DOWN LESS STRESS or you can go see if you have diabetes or hyper activity or a form of bipolar
ps i have delexia my self im like that alot and get more sleep that may helpWhat is wrong with me?
eat healthier better sleep and got see a therapistWhat is wrong with me?
Your change in behavior could be a sign of some internal, hormonal, or glandular changes. In addition to (or instead of) seeing a therapist, you should make an appointment with your doctor ASAP and tell him/her what you told us. Good luck! :)
Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i'm confused?
I met someone who knew of me, and my friends. Once we met he started showing up in places that he knew I would be at. We went out on a few dates, things went well. Last weekend we had a little to drink, I drove him home, and he asked me to stay. I told him I wanted to take it slow, and me staying and having sex wouldn't be taking it slow. He agreed, no sex. We kissed and fooled around a little, but no sex, but he tried. He asked me to meet his family the next day at brunch to which I explained I felt that was too fast.
He came on strong, made all kinds of confessions to me and my friend about how much he liked me when drinking that night, wouldn't let me go the next morning, and then pretends like he doesn't remember anything.
Now, this week, no phone calls, just an email and no asking to see me. Normally he reads my emails right away and responds. I responded to his email and three days - no response.
Is this loss of interest now, or just maybe regrouping since we took it a step further. Friends think me telling him I want to take it slow means not see him that often, which is not the case. I just mean take it slow and get to know each other, which you have to spend time together to do. I know I make him nervous, I know he gets shy around me - incredibly, but has put forth effort to get my attention, i'm just shocked in the change, and to be honest, its changed my interest level, because it comes off as mixed messages.Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i%26039;m confused?
hun sounds like a whole Lotta mix messages.. he seemed heaps into you.. then u said take it slow.. then he asks u to meet the family...
sounds really confusing...
So i would CALL HIM AND SAY erm whats going on i dont thnk we are on the same page with this - lets save the confusion and sort it out!
GOOD LUCK!!!Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i%26039;m confused?
sounds like he is worried he has scared you off. he likely feels like an idiot right now and also feels somewhat rejected. trying to make it clear to him that you like and accept him even though he comes off a bit strong would do some good. he is probably worried about you thinking he is out of his mind and is currently nursing a brused ego.Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i%26039;m confused?
maybe he feels a bit rejected?
maybe he feels like it's too much work?
could be anything.
how about you do some of the leg work and ask him out.microsoft web hosting good myspace
He came on strong, made all kinds of confessions to me and my friend about how much he liked me when drinking that night, wouldn't let me go the next morning, and then pretends like he doesn't remember anything.
Now, this week, no phone calls, just an email and no asking to see me. Normally he reads my emails right away and responds. I responded to his email and three days - no response.
Is this loss of interest now, or just maybe regrouping since we took it a step further. Friends think me telling him I want to take it slow means not see him that often, which is not the case. I just mean take it slow and get to know each other, which you have to spend time together to do. I know I make him nervous, I know he gets shy around me - incredibly, but has put forth effort to get my attention, i'm just shocked in the change, and to be honest, its changed my interest level, because it comes off as mixed messages.Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i%26039;m confused?
hun sounds like a whole Lotta mix messages.. he seemed heaps into you.. then u said take it slow.. then he asks u to meet the family...
sounds really confusing...
So i would CALL HIM AND SAY erm whats going on i dont thnk we are on the same page with this - lets save the confusion and sort it out!
GOOD LUCK!!!Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i%26039;m confused?
sounds like he is worried he has scared you off. he likely feels like an idiot right now and also feels somewhat rejected. trying to make it clear to him that you like and accept him even though he comes off a bit strong would do some good. he is probably worried about you thinking he is out of his mind and is currently nursing a brused ego.Comes on Strong then Backs off - Men, i%26039;m confused?
maybe he feels a bit rejected?
maybe he feels like it's too much work?
could be anything.
how about you do some of the leg work and ask him out.
Confused by behavior - Men?
I met someone who knew of me, and my friends. Once we met he started showing up in places that he knew I would be at. Finally I suggested we hang out alone sometime, and we went out on a few dates, things went well. Last weekend we had a little to drink, I drove him home, and he asked me to stay. I told him I wanted to take it slow, and me staying and having sex wouldn't be taking it slow. He agreed, no sex. We kissed and fooled around a little, but no sex, but he tried. He asked me to meet his family the next day at brunch to which I explained I felt that was too fast.
He came on strong, made all kinds of confessions to me and my friend about how much he liked me when drinking that night, wouldn't let me go the next morning, and then pretends like he doesn't remember anything.
Now, this week, no phone calls, just an email and no asking to see me. Normally he reads my emails right away and responds. I responded to his email and four days - no response.
Friends think me telling him I want to take it slow means not see him that often, which is not the case. I just mean take it slow and get to know each other, which you have to spend time together to do. I know I make him nervous, I know he gets shy around me - incredibly, but has put forth effort to get my attention, i'm just shocked in the change, and to be honest, its changed my interest level, because it comes off as mixed messages.
I would have thought at this point he would want to get to know me more. But he's done a 180. I texted him last night because I was invited to a birthday event that he was - and he didn't call me up and invite me. He told me he had to leave early to work and he'd see me there, I told him I would go after he left. That basically, I was looking for someone who was interested in getting to know me, and the 180 said enough - and no hard feelings. He said he was confused (all via text, didn't even bother to pick up the phone) and then went and checked his email, he didn't know he had an email from me, he was wondering why I never answered his..... I'm so confused, and hurt - if you were truly interested, wouldn't you have picked up the phone and called her?Confused by behavior - Men?
He may sound genuinely shy, like you said...so part of it could be that he doesn't want to mess things up. Sometimes guys want to get things right so much they take your statements very literally. So if you say you want to take things slow, to him, that may mean not talkin' for a few days, etc.
Also, you never know, sometimes e-mails never get through, or they are somehow filtered wrong or accidentally deleted.
Of course, the other case could just be that he wanted to get in your pants that one night and afterwards, he realized that wouldn't work so he stopped...but i have a hard time believing that because he wanted to introduce you to his parents.
You two need to meet up again and just sort things through, and figure out where you both are in terms of seeing each other and what you each want.Confused by behavior - Men?
Make a shorter question.
Pl0xxConfused by behavior - Men?
Sure he wasn't just trying for sex? That's usually when guys change their mind when you tell them you want to take it slow. They'll say and do a lot of flashy stuff in the moment, but they won't stick around for long if they just want to see how you ride.Confused by behavior - Men?
I don't think anyone fully understands a mans mind. You mentioned that this guy is shy. Could it be that he just feels embarassed by the way he acted the night you were out drinking. Maybe he is worried about what you or your friends might have thought of what he said or did? I would just give it time. If he is really interested in you, he will find a way to let you know. In the meantime, don't sweat it. If he lets you go over something as small as %26quot;taking it slow%26quot; he obviously wasn't too into you anyways. His loss, right!Confused by behavior - Men?
I would have picked up the phone and had called. But then again, you wanted to take it slow and not have sex with this guy that you knew of you-so you don't really know him or he know you.
He could have just wanted sex with you right then and there at his house because he was drunk and he really wasn't in his right mind.
I say that you should move on and don't wait up with any email, text, IM or anything. He may have second thoughts to you and you should just try not to get involved with him ok?
HOPE THIS HELPS!!! : )Confused by behavior - Men?
yes hes playing games with you. as hard as it is for me to say this he doesn't have true genuine feeling for you. im sorry. when we really like a girl we pay attention and don't miss emails or forget to call her. if he really wanted to make you happy and be with you he would totally respect your decisions and not try to pressure youConfused by behavior - Men?
LOL WOW! Is this guys name Rob? lol I'm sorry I dealt with this SAME situation about 6 months ago during a break with my ex. The guy would confess all these things and want me to meet his family and yadayada, but ironically the next day when brought up couldn't remember it due to drinking, and would then ignore MY phone calls and text messages. It has nothing to do with you, some men are just flakes. I didn't put out either and thats probably what he's looking for honestly. I'd say he's not interested and he's just looking for a booty call.Confused by behavior - Men?
Interesting question, and I hope I can help out a little. As a guy, I know that unfortunately, a lot of men do happen to view the statement, %26quot;I want to go slow%26quot; as a signal that the girl may not truly be interested. Sadly a lot of men do like to move fast, and if the girl is adverse to it, they tend to try and move on to the next girl. Take my best friend for example, he has always had girlfriends that have sex with him within the first to second date. He jumps to propositions, and has been engaged many times. Yet recently, he met a really great girl, and was constantly coming to me for advice. The girl wanted to move slowly, she didn't want to jump into anything, and wanted to get to know him.
He was absolutely sure this meant she wasn't interested, or had someone on the side. Despite my many attempts to tell him that anything worth having is worth working for, he wouldn't be dissuaded from his belief. Just recently I found out he'd stopped contacting her, because it was going so slowly that he didn't believe it was going anywhere. It seems remarkably like your situation, and I hope it can shed a little light.
Would I have picked up the phone and called? Personally yes, I believe that any important conversation should be held verbally or in person. I think it is slightly rude of your suitor to have ignored you as he has, as I believe the same of my friend, regardless of how close I am to him.
I hope I've helped a little.Confused by behavior - Men?
Hmm, from the way this guy is acting, it seems like he just wanted things to his way. It could have been a just sex thing but i'm not 100 percent on that but whatever the case, the basic point is that he didn't want to take things slow. The best way to really explain it. You're right...going slow doesn't mean talking or seeing each other less, it means take your time with the physical and emotional connection. He seems to maybe have lost patience with the whole thing and just decided to move on. A guy that really likes you doesn't treat you like this. You'll be able to tell without a doubt that he's crazy about you.Confused by behavior - Men?
You were right.
Is not better for you to be hurt at this stage rather than afterward.
however, before taking any step call and ask the reason behind it.
dont loose yous virginty with any unreliable person. Your procedure is fine.
Be patient and take very righteous decission and never think how it hurts you.
a good wisher
He came on strong, made all kinds of confessions to me and my friend about how much he liked me when drinking that night, wouldn't let me go the next morning, and then pretends like he doesn't remember anything.
Now, this week, no phone calls, just an email and no asking to see me. Normally he reads my emails right away and responds. I responded to his email and four days - no response.
Friends think me telling him I want to take it slow means not see him that often, which is not the case. I just mean take it slow and get to know each other, which you have to spend time together to do. I know I make him nervous, I know he gets shy around me - incredibly, but has put forth effort to get my attention, i'm just shocked in the change, and to be honest, its changed my interest level, because it comes off as mixed messages.
I would have thought at this point he would want to get to know me more. But he's done a 180. I texted him last night because I was invited to a birthday event that he was - and he didn't call me up and invite me. He told me he had to leave early to work and he'd see me there, I told him I would go after he left. That basically, I was looking for someone who was interested in getting to know me, and the 180 said enough - and no hard feelings. He said he was confused (all via text, didn't even bother to pick up the phone) and then went and checked his email, he didn't know he had an email from me, he was wondering why I never answered his..... I'm so confused, and hurt - if you were truly interested, wouldn't you have picked up the phone and called her?Confused by behavior - Men?
He may sound genuinely shy, like you said...so part of it could be that he doesn't want to mess things up. Sometimes guys want to get things right so much they take your statements very literally. So if you say you want to take things slow, to him, that may mean not talkin' for a few days, etc.
Also, you never know, sometimes e-mails never get through, or they are somehow filtered wrong or accidentally deleted.
Of course, the other case could just be that he wanted to get in your pants that one night and afterwards, he realized that wouldn't work so he stopped...but i have a hard time believing that because he wanted to introduce you to his parents.
You two need to meet up again and just sort things through, and figure out where you both are in terms of seeing each other and what you each want.Confused by behavior - Men?
Make a shorter question.
Pl0xxConfused by behavior - Men?
Sure he wasn't just trying for sex? That's usually when guys change their mind when you tell them you want to take it slow. They'll say and do a lot of flashy stuff in the moment, but they won't stick around for long if they just want to see how you ride.Confused by behavior - Men?
I don't think anyone fully understands a mans mind. You mentioned that this guy is shy. Could it be that he just feels embarassed by the way he acted the night you were out drinking. Maybe he is worried about what you or your friends might have thought of what he said or did? I would just give it time. If he is really interested in you, he will find a way to let you know. In the meantime, don't sweat it. If he lets you go over something as small as %26quot;taking it slow%26quot; he obviously wasn't too into you anyways. His loss, right!Confused by behavior - Men?
I would have picked up the phone and had called. But then again, you wanted to take it slow and not have sex with this guy that you knew of you-so you don't really know him or he know you.
He could have just wanted sex with you right then and there at his house because he was drunk and he really wasn't in his right mind.
I say that you should move on and don't wait up with any email, text, IM or anything. He may have second thoughts to you and you should just try not to get involved with him ok?
HOPE THIS HELPS!!! : )Confused by behavior - Men?
yes hes playing games with you. as hard as it is for me to say this he doesn't have true genuine feeling for you. im sorry. when we really like a girl we pay attention and don't miss emails or forget to call her. if he really wanted to make you happy and be with you he would totally respect your decisions and not try to pressure youConfused by behavior - Men?
LOL WOW! Is this guys name Rob? lol I'm sorry I dealt with this SAME situation about 6 months ago during a break with my ex. The guy would confess all these things and want me to meet his family and yadayada, but ironically the next day when brought up couldn't remember it due to drinking, and would then ignore MY phone calls and text messages. It has nothing to do with you, some men are just flakes. I didn't put out either and thats probably what he's looking for honestly. I'd say he's not interested and he's just looking for a booty call.Confused by behavior - Men?
Interesting question, and I hope I can help out a little. As a guy, I know that unfortunately, a lot of men do happen to view the statement, %26quot;I want to go slow%26quot; as a signal that the girl may not truly be interested. Sadly a lot of men do like to move fast, and if the girl is adverse to it, they tend to try and move on to the next girl. Take my best friend for example, he has always had girlfriends that have sex with him within the first to second date. He jumps to propositions, and has been engaged many times. Yet recently, he met a really great girl, and was constantly coming to me for advice. The girl wanted to move slowly, she didn't want to jump into anything, and wanted to get to know him.
He was absolutely sure this meant she wasn't interested, or had someone on the side. Despite my many attempts to tell him that anything worth having is worth working for, he wouldn't be dissuaded from his belief. Just recently I found out he'd stopped contacting her, because it was going so slowly that he didn't believe it was going anywhere. It seems remarkably like your situation, and I hope it can shed a little light.
Would I have picked up the phone and called? Personally yes, I believe that any important conversation should be held verbally or in person. I think it is slightly rude of your suitor to have ignored you as he has, as I believe the same of my friend, regardless of how close I am to him.
I hope I've helped a little.Confused by behavior - Men?
Hmm, from the way this guy is acting, it seems like he just wanted things to his way. It could have been a just sex thing but i'm not 100 percent on that but whatever the case, the basic point is that he didn't want to take things slow. The best way to really explain it. You're right...going slow doesn't mean talking or seeing each other less, it means take your time with the physical and emotional connection. He seems to maybe have lost patience with the whole thing and just decided to move on. A guy that really likes you doesn't treat you like this. You'll be able to tell without a doubt that he's crazy about you.Confused by behavior - Men?
You were right.
Is not better for you to be hurt at this stage rather than afterward.
however, before taking any step call and ask the reason behind it.
dont loose yous virginty with any unreliable person. Your procedure is fine.
Be patient and take very righteous decission and never think how it hurts you.
a good wisher
This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
I broke up with my ex 6 months ago for taking me for granted and her causing pointless arguments. For 3 months we had no contact and then for some reason I felt the need to contact her. In the past 3 months we have become really good friends, and I can see a huge change in her. She is happier, more secure and more mature. We rarely argue and when we do there is an actual reason and she is willing to compromise or admit when she is wrong. Basically shes the girl I fell in love with even better. We are both single and we constantly flirt and the feelings are definately coming back for me.
I talked to her about how different she seems in a positive way and she said she needed to take a step back and realize on her own and want to change for herself and not someone else. I am so proud of her and in a little shock she actually changed. I am starting to fall for her again should I tell her and is it an okay idea?This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
Tell her. The truth is easier to remember, especially when you have to tell it several times. Be honest and open. That is what we adults call a relationship.This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
I think you should tell her.
The only way a person can change is on their own and it sound like she has done that.
My wife and I dated for about 5 years and broke up for many reasons. we did not see each other at all for about another 5 years. when we met again, almost all of the things we did not like about each other before had changed. We have been married now for 7 years and are more in love now than ever. So, I can speak from experience when i say it can work. Go for it.This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
You spent exactly one sentence describing the reason you broke up with her. You spent the rest of this question talking about her. About how interested you are. Trying to convince us (really you) about taking another shot.
The vote is in, and it's about 80-20 from your description.
You don't regret what you did, you regret what you didn't do.This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
Tell her. She should know the truth, maybe she feels the same. What do you have to lose? a chance at love?This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
Hey Jake
Take a chance, but you should know that you may have been the cause of her poor behavior in the past, maybe she didn't want to be in a relationship with you, but didn't know how to tell you other than treating you bad.
....cya....
I talked to her about how different she seems in a positive way and she said she needed to take a step back and realize on her own and want to change for herself and not someone else. I am so proud of her and in a little shock she actually changed. I am starting to fall for her again should I tell her and is it an okay idea?This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
Tell her. The truth is easier to remember, especially when you have to tell it several times. Be honest and open. That is what we adults call a relationship.This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
I think you should tell her.
The only way a person can change is on their own and it sound like she has done that.
My wife and I dated for about 5 years and broke up for many reasons. we did not see each other at all for about another 5 years. when we met again, almost all of the things we did not like about each other before had changed. We have been married now for 7 years and are more in love now than ever. So, I can speak from experience when i say it can work. Go for it.This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
You spent exactly one sentence describing the reason you broke up with her. You spent the rest of this question talking about her. About how interested you are. Trying to convince us (really you) about taking another shot.
The vote is in, and it's about 80-20 from your description.
You don't regret what you did, you regret what you didn't do.This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
Tell her. She should know the truth, maybe she feels the same. What do you have to lose? a chance at love?This is kinda long, but I would appreciate some advice?
Hey Jake
Take a chance, but you should know that you may have been the cause of her poor behavior in the past, maybe she didn't want to be in a relationship with you, but didn't know how to tell you other than treating you bad.
....cya....
This is long but I really need advice?
I broke up with my ex 6 months ago for taking me for granted and her causing pointless arguments. For 3 months we had no contact and then for some reason I felt the need to contact her. In the past 3 months we have become really good friends, and I can see a huge change in her. She is happier, more secure and more mature. We rarely argue and when we do there is an actual reason and she is willing to compromise or admit when she is wrong. Basically shes the girl I fell in love with even better. We are both single and we constantly flirt and the feelings are definately coming back for me.
I talked to her about how different she seems in a positive way and she said she needed to take a step back and realize on her own and want to change for herself and not someone else. I am so proud of her and in a little shock she actually changed. I am starting to fall for her again should I tell her and is it an okay idea?This is long but I really need advice?
basically thats the cutest thing ever.
and she probably subconsciously changed for you too.
although i've never been one for getting back with ex's, this seems a little different, esp. if you talk and flirt. as usual, make sure your sure that the signs say she feels the same way. then sure go for it, talk about it. say like wanna give it another try?This is long but I really need advice?
It seems fine. Just talk to her about it because u seem to be close.This is long but I really need advice?
I think its okay to tell her but juz make sure she still has the same spark for u like wat u have for her. try telling her bit by bit cuz maybe if u tell her everything straight away she mite freak out and distance herself away from u becuase she might be confused. Anyways could u also answer the question i have? i desperately need helpThis is long but I really need advice?
This is a great question. In my opinion, the feelings coming back to you deserve to be honored, meaning you should tell her how you feel. Basically, just tell her what you typed in the 'Question' text box.
If you honestly feel this way about her, then yes. I think she deserves to be told, and you may owe it to yourself that you give her another shot. Good luck with the relationship!This is long but I really need advice?
yeah its an okay idea. just keep in mind how she used to be, i mean, just dont let her go back to her old ways in the futre. but if shes changed for herself than itd probably be permanent and if shes happier than before thats awesome.
tell her, if shes been flirting with you than she probably feels the same way, because girls generally dont flirt with their exes unless they still like them.
go for it. you've got nothing to loose....
I talked to her about how different she seems in a positive way and she said she needed to take a step back and realize on her own and want to change for herself and not someone else. I am so proud of her and in a little shock she actually changed. I am starting to fall for her again should I tell her and is it an okay idea?This is long but I really need advice?
basically thats the cutest thing ever.
and she probably subconsciously changed for you too.
although i've never been one for getting back with ex's, this seems a little different, esp. if you talk and flirt. as usual, make sure your sure that the signs say she feels the same way. then sure go for it, talk about it. say like wanna give it another try?This is long but I really need advice?
It seems fine. Just talk to her about it because u seem to be close.This is long but I really need advice?
I think its okay to tell her but juz make sure she still has the same spark for u like wat u have for her. try telling her bit by bit cuz maybe if u tell her everything straight away she mite freak out and distance herself away from u becuase she might be confused. Anyways could u also answer the question i have? i desperately need helpThis is long but I really need advice?
This is a great question. In my opinion, the feelings coming back to you deserve to be honored, meaning you should tell her how you feel. Basically, just tell her what you typed in the 'Question' text box.
If you honestly feel this way about her, then yes. I think she deserves to be told, and you may owe it to yourself that you give her another shot. Good luck with the relationship!This is long but I really need advice?
yeah its an okay idea. just keep in mind how she used to be, i mean, just dont let her go back to her old ways in the futre. but if shes changed for herself than itd probably be permanent and if shes happier than before thats awesome.
tell her, if shes been flirting with you than she probably feels the same way, because girls generally dont flirt with their exes unless they still like them.
go for it. you've got nothing to loose....
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