I broke up with my ex 6 months ago for taking me for granted and her causing pointless arguments. For 3 months we had no contact and then for some reason I felt the need to contact her. In the past 3 months we have become really good friends, and I can see a huge change in her. She is happier, more secure and more mature. We rarely argue and when we do there is an actual reason and she is willing to compromise or admit when she is wrong. Basically shes the girl I fell in love with even better. We are both single and we constantly flirt and the feelings are definately coming back for me.
I talked to her about how different she seems in a positive way and she said she needed to take a step back and realize on her own and want to change for herself and not someone else. I am so proud of her and in a little shock she actually changed. I am starting to fall for her again should I tell her and is it an okay idea?Can people change, honestly?
Some things about people DO change but it's circumstantial. People usually change through experiences they go through and time. Some people undergo changes when they don't like something about themselves and they work on changing it. You cannot change other people, though unless they have a hand in it, or they welcome the changes. Sometimes, just having some time alone to think and sort things out is all it takes for someone to know where they belong.
As for telling her how you feel, I would put a hold on that for now. If she told you she needs to %26quot;take a step back and see%26quot; if her changes are for herself or for you, then that is a big indication for you to say no more until she has the answer to her own question. Telling her now that you're falling for her all over again can be too much for her and you don't want to push at this point. Let things happen - they seem to be doing just fine. Don't tell her until she seems comfortable with her changes and who they're for. Don't complicate things be getting all serious or you might scare her away. Pay attention to her feelings and you'll know when the right time is!
Good luck to you both and it's great getting another chance!Can people change, honestly?
um i didn't read all that cuz i am lazy but yeah people caCan people change, honestly?
yes people can change, and do so in a profound and lasting way, if and when it is a change done for themselves. and sometimes a bit of hardship (such as a breakup, loss of a job, death, etc) can be the wake up call that the person really needed to get into gear.
sounds like she did change for the better for herself, was adult to realize that she needed the change in her life and to do it only for herself. sounds very genuine to me.
you are quite lucky to have the second chance!Can people change, honestly?
I dont know if people can truly change who they are,but i do know they can grow and mature.I found that most people change for a little bit ,but go back to being their normal self in about 3-6months.
